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8 TRAITS THAT ATTRACT OPPORTUNITIES & PEOPLE

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I’ve been asked many times ‘How much does my appearance really matter?’  

And I’ve always answered, a lot, when the occasion is important and if we are unknown because it’s the visual basis from which others will decide if they are going to interact with us or not.

BUT…Our clothes are only a clue to who we are inside.

Most of us want to be thought of as a person of merit, someone who leaves a positive mark on their family, friends, and community.

We all know the people of merit; those who stand apart from others and are the ones we can trust and count no matter what. They make us each feel important and bring security and value to our lives and to the lives of others. While they care for their appearance they are not vain, instead, their clothes reflect their inner qualities   

They are a far cry from those who style themselves only for show while exhibiting little regard for other people, their feelings or occasions.

This time around I thought I’d touch on the traits that set a person apart, making them a person of value to all they come in contact with? The traits are in no particular order as each is equally important in my eyes.

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HONESTY

Honesty is so much more than the act of being truthful. The best way to think about it is to define what dishonesty is – “any act or omission that causes or allows another to be misled“. Suddenly honesty is much more than not telling lies. Honesty is not engaging in word games, subtle distinctions, misdirection, concealment or omissions.

Honesty is about being real with yourself and others about who you are, what you want and what you need to live your most authentic life. Honesty promotes openness, empowers us and enables us to develop consistency in how we present the facts. Honesty sharpens our perception and allows us to observe everything around us with clarity.

Honesty does not give you license to hurt people with the truth by legitimizing what you’ve just said with “I’m just being honest!” Whether in your personal life or your professional one, honest opinions shouldn’t be used to destroy a person’s confidence or diminish their potential.

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CARING

This is an incredibly important trait. The person who cares about others, their wants, needs, and feelings are seen as a tower of strength and believe me there will be times when we all need someone to care for or about us.  

Some people make it a practice not to care about all manner of things for fear of appearing weak or being hurt but that only leads to a confined life. Caring for and about others does not guarantee we won’t be hurt or abused but it does allow us to grow and develop into a well-rounded person.

Emotional connections with others make us more fulfilled and help us lead more complete lives and our acts of caring and empathy are not only noticed by others but they shape us into happier beings. If we shut people out for fear of being hurt we also deduce the possibility of finding another person who may make us happy.

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TRUSTWORTHINESS

Trust is earned one deed at a time. It’s proving to people that you are a person of your word and can be relied upon to do what you have promised.

Being consistently a person of your word you’ll be rewarded with the support and loyalty of others resulting in strong relationships and leadership opportunities. In fact, without trust, there will be no relationship built or doors opened.

Trustworthy is also being a person who does not share things said to them in private, nor spreads gossip. 

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RESPECT

I could go on forever with this one…it seems to be a quality that is slipping further and further away each day as people put themselves before and above others.

Respect is a right of everyone and up until a person breaks that respect you should always show it. In fact, you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat others, particularly those they have nothing to gain from.

Respect builds bridges and brings people to a place of trust and shows them they have value. From the homeless person, we pass on the street to those in power, everyone deserves our respect until they do something to lose it. 

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HUMILITY

This is a trait that you can’t prove but one that people can quickly see when you display the opposite trait i.e. pridefulness, snobbery, arrogance and vain.

To have humility is to demonstrate that every person you encounter is equally valuable and you are no better or more important than anyone else.

The person who is humble is grateful for what they have, listens to other people’s views, accepts we are all fallible, asks for help when they need it (Oops, I fail at that one), is modest about their achievements and seeks feedback from others on a regular basis. 

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FRIENDLINESS

Most of us are attracted to people who are outgoing, welcoming, fun-loving and enthusiastic. Likewise, those who see the positive, lighter side of life and are kind.

Friendly people make our lives richer because they are inclusive, which includes looking people in the eye, smiling and acknowledging them to inviting others to join them be it sitting next to them or going out socially. Being friendly is a state of mind that affects not only the recipient but also the giver as it improves mental and physical well-being.

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CONFIDENCE

Confidence is a trait that attracts people immediately. It’s not arrogant or aggressive but rather assertive; it’s knowing you are worthy of speaking freely to express your ideas, opinions, and values. Confident people speak with assurance, are not afraid to take the lead or to show their enthusiasm for ideas and projects. They are consistent in their behavior and beliefs and portray an image of strength, be it physical, mental or both. 

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GENEROSITY

There are many forms that generosity can take from freely giving of one’s time, money or energy and each act is one with no expectation of return.

Generosity like confidence is a trait that when practiced improves the givers mental well-being as much as it does the receivers circumstances. To give without expectation of return is an act that improves the givers life because it causes us to focus on what we are giving rather than on what we are receiving. It creates a more outward orientation toward the world, which shifts our focus away from ourselves.

The world will be a better place for everyone if we practiced more of these thing each day. It’s not hard, it just takes a little mindfulness and practice.

 

 

 

 

 

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THE POWER IN A SMILE

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When was the last time you smiled at someone and what reaction did you get?  I smile back, I’ll wager.

It’s all too easy to forget about how our body language and facial expressions are affecting our image and relationships when we’re so conditioned to think mainly about our clothes and grooming. In the same way that makeup and style contribute to how we feel about ourselves and how others perceive us, our body language and facial expressions are just as important.

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A smile is the most effective tool we own when it comes to connecting with others. It’s a silent language that everyone understands and it’s an invaluable companion when making and cementing relationships.

So let’s take a minute to examine what makes a smile appear genuine.

 What is a Good Smile?

Look at the smiles in the lineup below, which ones do you think are genuine? (Answers at the base of the feature)

A genuine smile is one that is authentic and comes from the heart and envelopes the entire face. Interestingly science has proven that most people can spot a fake/insincere smile and a fake smile is rarely reacted to in a positive way.  

There are three main elements to a genuine smile:

  • raised corners of the mouth
  • slight wrinkle/crow’s feet around the eyes due to the raising of the cheeks
  • eyes that connect and radiate warmth

A fake smile only raises the corners of the mouth because we cannot voluntarily contract the muscles around our eyes. Real smiles communicate sincerity and warmth and shows other people that you are present, engaged, and involved, whether it be a social or business situation.

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How to Smile

  • A genuine smile is not confined to the face but is echoed throughout the body with open gestures and postures.  So don’t cross your arms across your chest or have your hands on your hips when smiling. 
  • Make eye contact when smiling. This is especially important when meeting someone for the first time. Eye contact plus a smile is the easiest way to make a good first impression.
  • While you’re smiling, be completely engaged in the moment. If you’re removed from the interaction, your smile will appear fake. Think positive thoughts and be engaged, this will definitely reflect in your smile. 
  • Show your teeth. A genuine smile parts the lips as the face muscles contract. A close mouth smile is one where the person smiles because they know they should rather than they want to or is given by someone who is embarrassed about their teeth. If you’re the later case you owe it to yourself to invest in your smile and have your teeth fixed.
  • Never tell a person to smile. It will only make you appear condescending. Let your smile be contagious, and let your smile encourage more smiles. Non-verbal cues are stronger motivations to reciprocating or giving out smiles. 
  • Practice makes perfect! Practicing your smile in front of your mirror may seem cheesy, but it will pay off. You will know when your smile is real cause you will feel the difference, even if it’s just you and the mirror.

When to Smile

Here are some scenarios when smiling will prove most effective:

  • When being introduced to or greeting someone – it’s a good way to be remembered.
  • When you agree with someone or something. This shows your engagement and agreement.   
  • While shaking hands, it’s both professional and memorable. When you do this in a business setting, it’s been proven that the other party will listen to you more attentively and take what you say more seriously.
  • When you’re on the phone. Yes, the person on the other line won’t be able to see your smile but it has been proven that they can hear it. The physical act of smiling has been proven to add sincerity and warmth to your voice.
  • When disagreeing, debating, or having an argument with another person, setting forth your points with a smile make the exchange less heated. A smile will communicate your openness in hearing out someones opposing views and will be seen as a sign of mutual respect.
  • When you say a person’s name. This will give you both a positive vibe about past, present, and even future encounters.
  • When you say goodbye to someone. A smile will make them look forward to getting to spend time or see you again.
  • During a job interview. In between imparting your answers, smiling is a good way to let your prospective employers know that you have a pleasant disposition.
  • When you’re feeling down. The mere act of smiling, even just to yourself, can uplift your day. Smiling to yourself in the mirror or smiling to people on the street are both instant mood booster. Who knows the smile you give may be brightening someone’s day?

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When Not to Smile

  • All the time, to everybody. Like a stare, or staying sorry too often, a constant smile on your face can make you appear in-genuine, submissive or evoke suspicion. It can also send someone the wrong message about whether or not to take you seriously. Besides, if you’re constantly smiling, you also have nowhere to go when you genuinely want to express pleasure or gratitude.
  • When it’s inappropriate for the occasion. 
  • When you want to project authority.  Some experts say that women undermine our power in the workplace by smiling too much. And indeed, in our culture, excessive smiling is the mark of a subordinate, especially if the person in front of us is not smiling at us.There’s some fascinating research that shows people in positions of power will return the smile of a subordinate, but are slower to smile at someone of equal status. Keep that in mind next time you’re in a difficult negotiation, especially if you want to be seen as an equal. 

Health and Social Benefits

There are multiple health and social benefits to smiling. Countless studies have smilesbeen done to look into these said benefits. Studies have found that smiling offers the following health benefits:

  • Lowers blood pressure
  • Releases endorphins, known as the feel-good hormone
  • Relieves stress
  • Boosts immune system
  • Boosts mood

A smile is a physical act that has real and measurable benefits to our psychology and physiology alike.

As soon as your mouth breaks into a smile, it can change your brain by releasing endorphins and serotonins. When you smile, it doesn’t just make you feel good it makes other and those around you feel good as well. Spreading smiles is a healthy thing that holds benefits for all. Smiling is indeed a free and easy form of everyday quick therapy. Smiles encompass both the body, the mind, the heart, and the soul.

So, there you have it; the social benefits of smiling are endless. The mere act of smiling already shows the world that you are ready to engage. Smiles express that you are responsive and receptive. It’s an invitation to converse, and a non-verbal cue that says you are amenable to social interaction. This positivity opens you up to more experiences and interactions, and in turn, it is proven to improve relationships with others and yourself.

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REBOOT YOUR STYLE

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The start of a new year is always an exciting time. The air is filled with the sense of possibilities, and we are drawn to the idea that this is the perfect time to start afresh. Start that clean slate, make the future better than the past.  Your style waxes and wanes as circumstances ebb and fall accordingly to life’s unfolding path and too often our identity gets a muddled as our closets leaving us to wonder what our style really is. I believe that the beginning of a year is the perfect time to reevaluate all the areas of your life and align your style with your personality, shape, and goals. If you’re ready for a year that sees your style and life improve  - it’s a chicken or egg type of thing, here are some ideas to get you underway.

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Know Your Goals

Just like planning a trip you need to know what your destination is. Finding the style that will work for you will work the same way.

Is your goal in 2017 to find a life partner, gain a higher position at work, be taken more seriously, gain more friends…. Before anything else you need to know what you want to accomplish.  You may also have different goals for the various parts of your life i.e., work, social, family etc.

Determine Your Style Labels

Early in life, we learn to give labels to people, e.g., she’s so tall and elegant, in fact, most of the time we don’t know we’re doing it.  

We often unconsciously react to what we see and feel about a person, and ultimately if enough people think the same way that perception can become their truth. It’s up to us to create and nurture the labels we want others to perceive about us. You can do this by determining all the adjectives that describe how you want others to see you.  This list becomes the foundation from which your style will emerge.

Here’s a list of possible adjective to get you going. Once you to select a group think about what characteristics each adjective conjures in your mind. For example, you may have selected ‘poised’. To me the characteristics would be; elegance, confidence, smooth surfaces, sophisticated colors, classic shapes etc.  By delving into the words you’ll get closer to knowing what you need to emulate it. 

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Dress Authentically

There’s no sense forcing yourself into looks that rob you of authenticity – in fact, it’s downright debilitating. Choose your style labels and know your goals, but do it within the bounds of your personality. If you don’t you’ll find yourself just as unsatisfied with your style or life as you may be now.

The good news is that you’re unlikely to go too outside what you are comfortable with unless you are being coerced there by outside influences.

Edit, Edit, Edit 

Once you’ve determined your goals and style labels it’s time to edit your closet by getting rid of items that don’t support where you’re trying to go and start determining what you need to purchase to build you desired look. Let go, or put away sentimental items that may be cluttering your closet and give away items anything you’ve hardly worn. 

Editing your closet is something you’ll need to do on a regular basis to get closer and closer to the look you’re after and will help you become familiar with the garments, silhouettes, and colors you naturally gravitate toward. Be sure to also discover all the outfit combinations you have – you’ll be amazed at how many different outfits can be discovered if you take the time to find them.


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Invest in Fit

It is actually quite sad how many women underestimate the value of a good seamstress/tailor as well as the value of having a good dry cleaner. Rather than automatically going to cheapest or most convenient option within your area, take the time to research and cultivate relationships with these key people that will help you look your best. While you may buy from high street stores, a great seamstress will make it look your cheap and chic pieces are made-to-order since they will tailor it to fit.  

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Plan and Prepare

Sunday evening plan what you are going to wear for the week. Look at the week’s upcoming events and determine what you want to accomplish day by day, then plan your outfits accordingly. Note each outfit down, piece by piece including the accessories so you can easily gather them up and lay them out the night before. You’ll find your mornings are less stressful and you’ll feel more confident knowing you’ve pre-thought out what you intend to wear.

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THOUGHTS FOR A NEW YEAR

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2016 is about to dawn and with a new year comes the promise of new opportunities, fresh starts and better and exciting times ahead.

Whatever your dreams, to achieve them you’ll need supportive friends, a positive mindset and a sound plan to keep you on track. Big goals require courage, commitment and resilience. With every set-back you rise from, you’ll grow stronger and wiser – so never, ever give up. Those who reach their goals are rarely the brilliant or talented but those who have persevered long after others have given up.

This week’s post is a collection of wise words from the many people who have influenced my life (especially my parents).

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~ Never be satisfied until you have found your purposeNever stop searching for why you were put on this earth and what your God-given talent is.

~ Find something that you are passionate about. Passion creates the enthusiasm that delivers boundless energy and will inspire others to believe in you. 

Build your future on integrityBe a person of your word. The unity of passion and integrity is a powerful force. 

Don’t do or say anything you would not want to read about in tomorrow’s news – you are a person of influence, whether it be to your friends, your children or your clients. If you lie, cheat or mislead you imply to others that it is acceptable behavior. 

Take a little step toward your goal/dream every day – even if you can only spare five minutes. 

Appreciate the journey – many successful people will tell you that once they arrived at their goal, they realized that the journey was the best part.

Associate with people whom you wish to become like – the old saying ‘lay down with dogs, rise up with fleas’ has its basis in fact.

Try to make wise decisions – the choices you make will affect your future just as they have created your present circumstances, take the time to think things through and seek wise council. 

Expect to make mistakes - They are life’s most valuable lessons. Failure only comes when you have not learned from a mistake and you repeat it. 

Expect things worth having not to come easily – Success is the reward for struggle and hard work.

Never forget your potential - even if others do.

~ No matter how much you look forward or dread something, it always passes; nothing is permanent so hang tight and appreciate every moment.  

Find someone who believes in you – negative people will only rob you of your potential.

~ Hugs your kids often and call your parents every week. Tell them you love them – they need to hear it more than you realize.

Evict your personal critic – when your inner voice starts to undermine your confidence, send it packing. 

Create a personal success file – and add to it daily, even if it is something small. Read it once a week to remind yourself of your progress. 

Do something nice for another person daily – without expectation of return. This can be as small as letting a car in, during peak hour or giving someone a genuine compliment. 

Spend time with your friends and family – they are your most valuable assets. Life is short and its length unpredictable, so get up now and go phone someone. 

Nurture yourself – eat well, exercise, get enough sleep, take regular time-out and spend time with those who love you. 

Value yourself – Don’t feel guilty if you occasionally spend money on yourself or buy something frivolous. Shrouds don’t have pockets and you’re definitely worth it. 

Occasionally do something silly - The best stress-reliever and depression-buster is laughter. 

Pray for guidance and expect an answer.

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4 WORDS THAT MAKE OR BREAK A FIRST IMPRESSION

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In a world where when can buy our groceries by simply raising our phones, and pay our bills by snapping a picture of our cheques, it’s hard to step away from high expectations and try to find the genuinity in things and people. When it comes to first meeting people, how do you know you’ll get along, or what kind of person they are?

Let’s face it: first impressions are a big deal! You can only make them once and it can be very difficult to change them, so it’s important to you get it right. The good news is anyone can pull off a great first impressions by using impression management techniques. Now don’t get intimidated, I know the term sounds very corporate but the truth is it works just as well if you are the new mum getting to know other mums at your kids new school or looking for a life mate just as well as it does for the corporate high flyer.

I know we’ve been taught not to judge a book by it’s cover, but in reality – it’s just a ideal, and we continue to look at a book’s front and back cover before deciding if it’s worth flicking through some inner pages.  So to, you are judged by what others initially see. This doesn’t refer to just how you look, but also how you behave and carry yourself when interacting with others. 

I use the following four words developed in the 1930’s by Professor Dale Leathers to help assure a great impression. All four areas are important, but their order of important changes depending on the actual situation. When your image is in sync with these words events will often proceed smoothly and you’ll be afforded the time for people to get to know you better; you’ll be invited into the fray and your period of social or business proof will have begun.

The words are:

  • Credibility
  • Likeability
  • Confidence 
  • Attractiveness

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In essence this is being believable/genuine/truthful–are you who you say are? Do you act on things when you say you will? Can you be trusted? It’s a perceived quality that is assigned to you based on a known reputation and/or a mix of visual and behavioral clues. When credibility is attained so is trust.

No one wants to come off as “fake” or bogus, because no one wants to be around people they perceive as phony. Think of the infamous tween movie scene of Mean Girls when the cruel Regina George compliments a girl’s “vintage” skirt, then turns around to frenemy Cady Heron and mocks the very same skirt she complimented minutes ago.

In the interview context credibility means, the interviewees have dressed and groomed themselves to look the part, are on time, seem calm and waiting patiently in the reception area. Even if you’re nervous on the inside, you should always keep a cool demeanor.

Action Point: When you are next attending an interview, seeing a bank manager, putting your hand-up to be on a committee, attending an association meeting or social gathering, or going on a first date think through what credibility will look and act like to those you will be before. You want to appear calm, cool, and collected even if you feel like you’re falling apart on the inside.

Credibility rates highest in business and corporate situations and third on the list in many social situations.  Learn more about credibility.

LIKEABILITY

This comprises of two areas:

How much a person sees you as ‘like them’ / ‘similar to them’.

It’s human nature to like people who like us, and we also like people who are like us. Think about it for a minute, we are constantly seeking points of similarity, and as a result are attracted to people who are like us in terms of values, social status, ethnicity, body profile, age, interests and experiences. Shared traits make us feel safe, appreciated and part of a tribe.

One way to achieve likeability is by dressing in a similar manner to those you wish to work or socialize with.  Another is behaving in a similar way.  Each helps connect you with the group and leads to a feeling of warmth and open-ous toward you.

How friendly, agreeable and easy you are to get along with.

Unless you want to spend an entire party sipping on wine by yourself in a corner, it’s important that you look friendly and approachable. 

Most people want to live in harmony making the traits of friendliness, caring, openness, and empathy cherished values. When you are open and welcoming, people are instantly drawn to you. Nice people like other nice people, there’s no need for hard science to back that fact up.

Would you want to spend time around someone who appears to be self-important, chilly or rude? Think about it. I’d rather be apart of the group laughing over casual conversation.

Action Point: The next time you have a meeting with a group who are important to you, think about all the way you can subtly demonstrate similarity with them through your dress, conversation and knowledge. I don’t mean find out what someone is wearing and copy the look down pat. But if you’re meeting at a fancy restaurant in celebration of something, look just as nice as everyone else.

Think about your body language as well as, the way you’ll greet and treat people.

Likeability rates second in business and corporate situations and first for many social situations. Learn more about likeability.

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CONFIDENCE

No one is saying you should strut down the street and go on and on about the reasons why you think you’re better than others. However, if you display a lack of confidence you’ll be in trouble from the get-go. It’s hard to make any kind of connection with others if you appear to be shy, meek or some one who prefers to observe from the back. It’s a recipe for never get noticed and the strong and confident always rule the weak.

A lack of confidence shown through body language, dress or grooming, or speech will instantly give rise to questions in the minds of others. Why is she acting like that? Isn’t she prepared? Is she lying? Is this her first time? These questions will give rise to discomfort that in turn will have you being left alone to stare at everyone else.

Holding an upright and relaxed posture, walking with purpose, looking people in the eyes and smiling genuinely when they speak to you, being the first to offer your hand and give a firm hand shake while introducing yourself and others in a friendly and assertive way are just a few examples of confidence.

Action Point: Think about how you enter a room or approach a new group of people. Are you hunched, or trying to make yourself smaller? If it’s meek or shy, you’re doing yourself a complete disservice. Practice greeting people and introducing yourself, notice how you stand when you are in a new situation and what signals you may be unconsciously sending to others. Even ask for feedback from a few friends. Like eating an elephant, take it one bite at a time.
One thing I can tell you, is like an actor who needs a dress rehearsal to truly get into character, you too will experience a rise in confidence when you know you are dressed and groomed well–think of it like your personal coat of armor. Investing in an outfit that makes you feel the part is well worth the price paid, and confident people know they are worth it. 

Confidence rates equal second in business and corporate situations and second for many social situations. Learn more about confidence.

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ATTRACTIVENESS

Now this is the elephant in the room! It’s such a taboo subject but I’m going to give it to you straight and clear–your appearance matters! I don’t mean you have to look like Angelina Jolie or you immediately fail at life. However, your face and over all appearance is the first thing people see, and it sets the scene for everything that will follow. Fact: everyone stereotypes whether they want to admit it or not.

I’ve worked for many corporations to teach others impression management, and the bottom line is that they expect you to bring assets to the organisation 4- 5 times what they pay you. They also expect you to be a good representative of the attitudes and culture of the company. When it comes to your grooming and dress the expectation is for you to do the best with what you’ve got.

No one expects you to wear high price tag, designer clothes–truthfully, few can’t tell them apart from everyday brands. Clothes that suit your shape and age, are appropriately respectful for your place of work and their clients, and are clean while being nicely coordinated is all that is expected of you.

Make no mistake that men and women lose jobs because of their dress or grooming, but will rarely these days be given this as the reason for being passed over. A too-high of a heel hear, or a higher hem there can be an easy deal breaker.

Outside of the corporate workplace, personal attractiveness is also something to be taken seriously. Dressing in an authentic manner while making the most of your shape shows you value yourself and have a good self-esteem as well as self-confidence.

Action Point: If you think that your appearance may be the thing that’s holding you back then I suggest you see an image consultant (not a stylist!) to help you get on the right track. From simple dress and grooming consultations to personal shopping and in-home wardrobe sessions, they can quickly get you smiling at your reflection and appreciating the compliments that will come your way. Image Consultant Directory. Online Style Program.

Attractiveness rates equal second in business and corporate situations and second for many social situations.  Learn more about the importance of Attractiveness.

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HOW TO ESCAPE A STYLE RUT: part 2

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OK, so you seriously suspect you have gotten yourself into a style rut.  In order to move forward the first step is to identify exactly what areas of your dress and grooming need updating.

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Take a long, hard look at your wardrobe, make-up, hairstyle, and accessories to determine what areas need adjusting. This process is made much easier when you have a My Private Stylist program and have invested in a personal color consultation. 

Some questions to ask yourself:

Is the problem with your clothes?

  • Does your wardrobe contain many items in the same style and/or color?
  • What percentage of your clothes are over 5 years old?  And are these the items you wear most? 
  • Do your clothes work with your apparent age, lifestyle, responsibilities, and goals? 
  • Next time you’re out looking around you as well as in weekly women’s magazines; how many other women are wearing similar styles to you?
  • How do you feel about your style/appearance?  Do you feel it is doing your justice by accurately representing who you are, your abilities and your outlook on life?   

Is the problem with your grooming (make-up and/or hairstyle)?

  • When was the last time you changed your hairstyle or hair color?
  • Is the style and color you presently have complimentary to your face shape or coloring?
  • Have you been wearing the same shade of lipstick for more than 3 years?
  • Have you changed the way you apply make-up within the last several years?
  • Do you see similar styles to what you’re wearing in weekly women’s magazines?

Only by identifying the problems can you begin to know how to start resolving your style rut.  

How to Escape a Style Rut

The truth will set your free but first, it will really tick you of!

SECOND

Find a Mentor.  Enlisting the help of a stylist, image consultant or friend can really help. Please don’t ask friends who are not up to scratch themselves – this just leads to the blind, leading the blind. Asking for honest feedback can hurt at first but it will open your eyes and help you change. Accept the constructive and possibly negative feedback with grace – remember you did ask for it.

Dream a little, Think about the wonderful consequences of a new image and the doors and possibilities a brand new closet may open up for you. This will help you get ready to expand your thinking, launch into your new look, and it’ll make you open to exploring different fashion options.  

Decide how you want to look, and what impression you want others to formulate about you.

  • Write down words you would like people to use when describing the new you to others e.g., happy, youthful, relaxed, elegant, sexy, energetic, professional, fashionable, etc. These words will help you know what type of looks to experiment with.
  • I also recommend you make a list of words to describe how you do not want to look.  Each word will conjure up a look, type of behavior and mindset to build on.
  • Lastly, list words that describe how you want to feel after your new look i.e. more youthful, fashionable, energetic, etc – these words will keep you both motivated and on track.

Consider your personality to ensure you’ll feel comfortable with your new look. If you change your style to please someone else and not yourself, you may very likely find the look difficult to live out and in a short period of time you’ll revert back to your rut. To find a style that appeals to you, it will help to browse through current magazines to discover what appeals to you and what doesn’t. Cut out these images and paste them onto a large sheet of paper. Make a mood-board that will solidify your personal style vision. You can also take our free Personal Style Expression quiz.and it will be important to you to take the test twice as explained when you get your results.

Be prepared to stretch and change.  After all, if nothing changes, nothing changes.

Find a Muse. Look for someone famous whose style you admire and would feel comfortable in.  You can copy their look with clothes and accessories in your price range.  Google images are a good way to start.  Type in ‘street style + the words of your choice’ i.e street style women, street style mature women or street style women work then go to the image area. The images there will give you inspiration and they often link to great blogs.

Start looking for new current clothes, and remember, looking current does not mean blindly following fashion. Stylish women create fashionable ensembles that are in sync with their needs, personality, and lifestyle. When trying things on, keep in mind that ‘fit’ is a very important thing, and alterations are definitely worth the investment as they’ll make a world of a difference to your appearance.

 ‘looking current does not mean blindly following fashion’

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To jump-start your wardrobe revival, here are some tips:

Get a new hairstyle, It will do wonders for your morale. It doesn’t even have to be an extreme one – even something as simple as growing out a fringe, losing or growing some length, or adding a few highlights can work wonders. If you’ve been going to the same stylist for years go somewhere new to get a fresh and unbiased set of eyes and opinion.

Get a Make-up Revamp, But not at a department store. Find a make-up artist to properly and honestly assess your makeup and teach you how to apply an everyday look. If you attend a make-up clinic you can often bring your make-up bag and they’ll can help you figure out what products to toss and to keep. 

Purchase on-trend accessories that say, ‘I’m in touch with what’s going on in fashion.’ Accessories are by far the quickest way to update your wardrobe and incorporate timely trends into it. Do not underestimate the impact a pair of shoes, a statement purse, and updated jewelry can add to all your looks. No need to spend a lot on these as they pass from fashion to fad quickly. By purchasing affordable items you can update your wardrobe again next season. 

Purchase one complete outfit comprising of pieces that can be mixed with other items in your wardrobeMixing and matching, and getting creative with your separates is the surest way out of a rut. Use your imagination and play with blending different colors, textures, and silhouettes together.

THIRD

To ensure you do not fall back into a rut:

  • Add at least two new fashion elements to your wardrobe every season. Accessories and color can be added most easily.
  • Remember; less is actually more. Buy quality over quantity especially when it comes to major pieces of clothing (suits, jackets, pants and skirts).
  • Experiment with various wardrobe combinations and fashion looks. Don’t be afraid to add color and new shapes to your wardrobe.
  • Reassess your hairstyle and make-up reassessed at least every three years.
  • For every new fashion item, you add, retire an old one.
  • Base your wardrobe on at least two basic colors.
  • Try a new style at least once a year.
  • Enlist the help of a stylish looking friend and give them permission to tell you if something about you is starting to look a little ‘off.’ Hearing constructive criticism about your style, and adjusting accordingly is important in making sure that you don’t fall into a rut again.

FINALLY

Don’t try to radically alter your look overnight.

Think evolution not revolution.

It’s better and easier to make subtle changes over a period of time to help ease yourself and others into your new look. I know change takes courage. If you embrace change, you may really surprise yourself; and I know you’ll certainly surprise those around you.

Change is a natural part of life, and as you change over time, let your personal style follow suit.

Style is a representation of who you are at any given moment,
let it be an accurate and flattering image every single time.

Evolution

 

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HOW TO ESCAPE A STYLE RUT: part 1

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Discovering you’re in a style, makeup/hair or color rut often happens by accident. Over time you gravitate toward, and then repeated the same colors or styles over and over again until one day it hits you or, as happened to a client of mine, she found out her children’s friends called her the ‘Purple lady’. Many women by the time they reach their forties have gone through numerous and varied stages of trial and error discovering what works best for their body type, personal style, and fashion preferences. From then on nothing much changes. The danger is that being on the ‘right track’ can eventually turn into a style rut, that once they are entrenched in it can be very difficult to realize and/or escape. Now don’t think a style rut only happens after 40 – it can happen at any age and is quite often caused by a singular mindset. There are many reasons why one can be trapped in a thought pattern or trapped in a state of making style choice automatically. Whether it’s life changes, busy schedules or simply the lack of time or will to pay attention to one’s own style, a style rut is something that can be broken. I believe there are several types of style ruts:

  • The Time Warp: your entire closet seems to be stuck in another fashion decade.
  • The Peter Pan: your wardrobe is filled with the same style of clothes you wore 15 – 20 years ago clothes when you looked hip! Sure some things may be back in fashion but they will never be styled in exactly the same way.  I say…’ if you were young enough to wear it first time round – chances are you’re too old the second time‘. 
  • The Too Busy/Too Lazy to Think: every item in your closet is almost the same as the next and its been exactly the same for years. Sure it’s easy to get dressed in the morning but your wardrobe contains no more thrill to wear than flannelette pajamas.

Enlightenment often comes only after a particular comment or event has ‘shaken our tree’, and challenged the perception we have of who we are and how we are seen by others. Fashion and personal style are a huge part of one’s own image, and you may find that when your style is given an upgrade, your disposition follows and your confidence soars.

Change is Good

 Life is ever-changing:

  • Fashion changes.
  • Our body-shape changes.
  • Our coloring changes.
  • Globally thoughts on any number of subjects change.
  • Our lifestyle changes.
  • Our personal style expression can change.
  • Our expectations and desires change.
  • Our circumstances change.

Your style should match the changes that you go through in life, and it should reflect how you’ve come through all these challenges and how you’ve succeeded in them. Style is a great way to express that.

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 Unsure if you’re in a rut?    Here are some symptoms:

  • You’re uninspired as you look through your own closet
  • You or others use words like boring, staid, dowdy, unyielding, inflexible, strange, weird, ordinary, uninspired or dull when describing your look/wardrobe.
  • When shopping for something new you realize you have 4 or more similar pieces just like it in your existing wardrobe
  • Your wardrobe looks like something from a retro party or Throwback Thursday
  • Other people give you a nickname for your repeating signature look i.e. The Purple Lady
  • You rarely consider wearing different styles or colors. Black is a no-brainer color, but sometimes you gotta step away from the all-black attire
  • You don’t bother looking in the mirror because your clothes and total look are the same as every other day of the year, so you know exactly what you look like.
  • You don’t shop – you restock.
  • You are dressing by someone else’s rules (and sometimes these people aren’t even around anymore).
  • You can’t remember the last time you did anything different with your hair, makeup or clothes.
  • You stop wearing a garment only when it’s completely unwearable.

Once a rut is identified it’s common to make excuses for why/how it happened.

  • ’I don’t have time to shop’
  • ’Nothing works at my age’
  • ’I’m too fat/busy/old etc’
  • ’Nobody cares how I look’
  • ’I don’t have money to shop’
  • ’I don’t want to appear vain’
  • ’I couldn’t care less what people think’

Although I’ve heard all these comments, I have yet to meet a woman who deep down does not wish to look attractive. Most of us have discovered that when we look good, we feel good, and when we look good we get noticed in a positive way and treated better (not fair, but true). All it takes is the will, courage, and commitment to take action and make the change. At this point, you may realize you want to change but have no idea of where to start. Overhauling your closet and lifestyle and doing a style makeover might seem overwhelming, but there are simple ways to navigate it through the change.

When you’re ready, head to part 2.

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IS APPEARANCE REALLY THAT IMPORTANT?

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Every day each of us unconsciously decide who and what we bring into our lives; from products we buy to the individuals we chose to be our friends, or do business with. We make rapid gut decisions based on the visual clues we observe, which we then associate with known stereotypes and assume are a reflection of the inner qualities we believe them to reflect. Based on our decisions we either engage or ignore. 

In theory we know that there is a great deal more to a person than what meets the eye, but like a website, unless we can quickly gain someone’s attention by providing a visual experience that is similar to what they are looking for, or at the very least find engaging, we will be quickly ignored and passed over. Through the power of the visual media and a fast moving often unsafe world this is how we have become conditioned and it’s not going to change anytime soon. If we can’t attract attention by having a pleasing appearance then we will not be granted any additional time so they can get to know us better.

Apart from the effect our appearance has on others, we too are affected.  At least several times a day we see our reflection, and every time we do we are affected by what we see.  If we are pleased we tend to walk taller, smile more often, act more confidently and be more friendly.  When we dislike what we see we tend to shrink both into ourselves and away from others.

Is Your Appearance Really That Important?

So, the answer to the question, is appearance really that important? is an absolute YES.  Appearance is the make or break factor that opens doors, minds and opportunities.

But is it all that matters? Absolutely not, there’s a lot more to cultivating a great image than our appearance BUT, appearance is a vital part in achieving whatever success you are seeking as it is the one thing that most often opens the door.  

Image is PERCEPTION

From the Playground to the Boardroom 

Look in any workplace or examine any social group and you’ll find that some stand apart as the leaders. They are the ones the others look to as the main voice; when they speak they are listened to and when they act everyone generally follows.

But what is it that set them apart?  

It’s certainly not just a pleasing or impressive appearance, we’ve all met well-dressed pains in the …..!  It’s a combination of several areas of image all working congruently together. 

The Circle of Success. 

Some years ago I developed ‘The Circle of Success; as an image management concept that would assist my clients to understand and work on various aspects of their image that needed improvement. This concept works for any person, living any lifestyle, who wishes to gain success in any endeavor.   

As you’ll see inner image is central and of most importance to you ability to manage the areas in the outer ring.  The areas in the outer ring are all affected by each other and each needs to be reasonably managed to ensure a excellent long term image.  

Total Image Management

Inner Image: the heart of the matter

This is the sum and substance of who you are, it is the real ‘you’ that others can’t see and it is the bedrock on which every act of your life is played out. It comprises of qualities such as your: self esteem, confidence, honesty, ethics, integrity, motivation and ability. Which have been formed as a result of your gender, experiences, opportunities, cultural and social background, education, spiritual foundation, values, goals and personality.  These elements combine to determine your outlook, attitudes, motivation and actions.  They determine what and how you think, and how you’ll behave and react in every situation.  They form your reality and govern what you want and expect out of life, and they set the limitations from which you live and behave.

The health and quality of inner image is central to a person’s ultimate success.  Anyone can be groomed to walk into a room and make a smashing initial impression, but it is the substance behind the performance that will ultimately sustain the impression. Any component of inner image that is lacking or in need of attention i.e. poor self esteem, low confidence, a damaging attitude, or a debilitating experience has the power to diminish or override any positives in the other four image areas and should be attended to as your first step.

Action Point: Could there be an inner image area holding you back?  If there is seek help to overcome it; it may be difficult at first to do, but once overcome it will improve your future.

Assumed Image: meeting expectations

This is what others know and/or expect of a person and it encompasses appearance, behavior and perceived ability. It’s knowing how to turn up to an event or meeting and as soon as those present see you they are put at ease.   It’s important that we meet the assumed expectations of those we socialize or work with and once a person is known, their assumed image becomes their reputation.

Reputation often precedes a person, either smoothing the way or impeding their path with avalanches of misconceived ideas and prejudices. Reputation is one of the most valuable commodities a person owns and it needs to be carefully created, maintained and zealously protected.  Think about those in your close circle of friends; there is likely to be one you know can’t be trusted to keep a secret, one who always turns up late, one who always has a better story than everyone else, one who is always there when you are in need and one you know can be always be relied on.  They have gained their reputation over time and it can be very hard (though not impossible) to change.  In short, your reputation has the power to open doors or keep them sealed.  

Action Point: Take the time to think about your reputation.  Could you be the one who’s always late or can’t be relied on?  It only takes a moment to make the decision to change and if you keep to the change you will change how you are thought of.

Visual Image: you are what you wear

The saying goes, ‘Seeing is Believing’. Therefore this area is most powerful when meeting someone for the first time. Research has shown that visual presentation (dress, grooming, facial expressions and posture) accounts for more than half of the impression made on others. When a person dresses and acts in the manner expected of a successful person, it will usually be assumed that they possess the talent, personality and characteristics that accompany the image. If they present a poor first impression, they may find themselves struggling to reclaim lost ground.  

When meeting any person or group for the first time it’s a smart move to dress in manner that will give you the greatest chance of being recognized as someone who possesses qualities that will fit-in and be an assets if included.

Action Point: Take a little time to think about how you visually present yourself.  PretaStyler is the perfect program if you need some help discovering what clothes work best for your figure. To learn about what clothing, make-up or hair colors suit you best visit an image consultant.    

Experienced Image: do unto others

This is the behavioral aspect of a person consisting of courtesy, respect, communication and people skills along with body language. If you can impress others with your interpersonal skills you’ll have a high chance of initiating positive and lasting relationships. It is always wise to strive to leave those you meet with a positive experience of you.  This includes: turning up on time, having a friendly, respectful and inclusive personality, a willingness to participate for the good of the group as well as delivering on what you say you’ll do, and being flexible and open to the ideas of all. 

Action Point: An image consultant can also assist you with your experience image.  A great book on the subject is Put Your Best Foot Forward by Jo-Ellan Dimitrius  (Author), Mark Mazzarella 

Proven Image: congruent and consistent

This is the final image area and is comprised of the tangible results of all the other areas as proven over time. As an example, you may have hired someone to speak to your group because you heard that they were entertaining, informative and an excellent speaker (Assumed Image/Reputation), on the night they looked great (Visual image) and behaved fine but did not provide the expected experience (Experienced image).  That in turn damaged their reputation as you spoke to others about your disappointment (Proven Image). 

To have a strong image you need to consistently live up to the expectation of others and the promises you have made.

Action Point: Think about your total image – do you live up to what people expect from you or do you too often disappoint. Everyday is a new day and a new opportunity to start afresh.  It may take some time for your image to change but if your consistent and persistent it will change.  As the saying goes. ‘it won’t happen overnight, but it will happen‘.

I hope now you can answer the question, is appearance really that important? And can see how anyone can create an image that will impress yourself and those around you if you employ an image management strategy.

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MY SEXY STYLE – How to Reveal Your Sexy Side!

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Looking appropriate for an occasion means following a few fashion guidelines. The same goes for looking sexy. There are differences between classy and trashy. Do you know what they are? Here are a few hints for achieving sexy sophistication and determine your own ‘my sexy style’.

#1 Attitude

Attitude is your number one accessory for showing sex appeal. It’s all about attitude. A confident, sensual woman is appealing no matter how much skin she shows. You don’t have to be drop-dead gorgeous, either. You just need to believe in yourself.

#2 Sensual Style

What kind of sexy are you? Sexy is defined in so many different ways. Sexy can be soft and feminine or strong and daring. As with all your wardrobe, a sexy look matches your personality, so wear it well.

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#3 Fit to be Sexy

I know that a huge factor of my sexy style depends on an outfit’s fit. Garments should hug your curves, not constrict them. If it’s too tight, too revealing, or too anything which makes you uncomfortable or unsure, it’s not the right choice. Constantly attending to a garment is not sexy. It’s distracting and a confidence crusher.

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#4 Lady in Red

Want to make an impression? Wear red. Not only is it noticeable, red conveys power and passion and is memorable. Red garments, lipstick, and nails will give you that va-va-voom! touch.
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#5 The Eyes Have It

If the eyes are the widow of the soul, make sure your eyes show your passionate inner being. Smoky eyes are a sure, intense way of standing out. Eyeliner, especially a line that flicks upwards, is another way to create sexy eyes. Dramatic eyes look best with mascara, minimal blush, and nude or red glossy lips.

Learn how to apply a smoky eye (link)

Learn more about eye liner (https://www.paulaschoice.com/expert-advice/eyes/_/apply-eyeliner-like-a-pro )

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#6 Dynamic ‘Do

Mmm . . . tousled hair. It makes men want to reach out and touch it. The full, tumbled-out-of-bed beauty is achieved by spraying damp hair with a styling product (such as Bumble & Bumble Surf Spray) and then air dry. All you have to do is scrunch and go. You can also braid your hair while damp so when you undo the braids, you have full, sexy waves.

For a strong, sexy appearance, sleek and straight is the way to go. There are a multitude of shine and straightening products to help you achieve this look. And don’t forget the leave-in conditioner to tame those split ends!

One final note: where you part your hair can change your sexy appearance. A centre part is more natural, giving a girl-next door vibe, while a part to the side (especially way off-side) is more sophisticated.

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#7 Under-Tones

There’s nothing like sexy lingerie to make you feel, well, sexy! Black, red, white, pink . . . pick what matches your personality. And don’t forget the corset! There’s nothing like it for making you feel strong, not to mention the hourglass shape and support it provides.

For ladies who are not quite comfortable with their rolls and bulges to wear sexy lingerie, you can always wear shapewear. And yes, it can be sexy! There’s shapewear for every kind of garment (including swimwear) to tone your assets and improve your own ‘my sexy style’.

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#8 Accessorise to Sizzle

The right accessory can take your look from fizzle to sizzle. Start with large hoop earrings. They say “wild” like nothing else.
History of Hoops

A glamorous yet practical accessory is oversized sunglasses. They convey a sense of sexy strength and status.

Show off your legs with fishnet stockings. Because of their historical association with French can-can dancers and ladies of the night, they make a powerful statement, so wear with care knowing you will get noticed!

Speaking of legs, you can make them look even longer with stilettos. Nothing says sexy like a pair of sky-high heels. Keep in mind if they don’t fit properly in the heel, it detracts from the look and will make it harder to walk.

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#9 Animal Magnetism

Animals are untamed, even dangerous. No wonder an animal print conveys that same wild style! Unleash your sex appeal with snakeskin, leopard print, tiger stripes, etc. Animal prints are especially attractive in smaller amounts or worn one garment/accessory at a time, so stock up on animal print handbags, shoes, scarves, and jewellery to make your appearance roar.

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#10 Show Some Skin

When you want to show off your assets, remember this rule: less is more. Revealing just a bit is much more enticing and sexy than letting it all hang out. Leave a little to the imagination. It’s also better to coordinate a low neckline with a modest hem, or a mini-skirt/dress with a higher neckline. This balancing act between low/high makes a more attractive overall appearance.

By the way, the tighter the garment, the less you should show. Curve-hugging garments reveal your silhouette; plunging necklines or short hemlines reveal what creates that silhouette. Sexy dressing shows one or the other, but not both.

When wearing revealing cleavage, also remember: skin tape is your best friend – peek-a-boo nipples are not.

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MY STYLE? – a look at what influences how you dress  

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What do you think is the biggest influence on your wardrobe?

  1. Celebrity style
  2. Whatever’s on sale
  3. Morals
  4. How you dressed as a child

If you guessed how you dresses as a child, you’re in agreement with psychologists. What you wore when growing up may be dictating what you wear now. It sounds hard to believe, but if you think about all the other things which shape our personalities and behaviors, it’s not such a far stretch.

Style Child

Ask yourself:

  • Did I develop my own style as a child?
  • Was I allowed to buy my own clothes?
  • Did I wear new clothes or hand-me-downs?
  • What stores did I shop at?
  • Am I confident in my clothing purchases or do I need other peoples’ opinions?
  • Do I dress to please myself or other people?
  • What are my favorite things to wear?
  • What did I hate to wear?
  • Do I give my children freedom to choose their own clothing?
  • How can I use this to find my style

The answers to these questions will give you astonishing insight into how you shop for clothes today and will help you answer the question “how do I find my style”. Maybe your current style is reactionary to your childhood clothes. For example, “Al,” a successful businessman, owns over 70 pairs of shoes. Does he need 70? Probably not, but growing up in extreme poverty where he had to bind his shoes with bailing wire to keep them together has something to do with it.

Perhaps you’re hesitant to express yourself boldly through clothes. “Jane” grew up in a strict household where makeup was frowned upon, jeans were a no-no, and muted colors and patterns ruled the day. Though she has a family of her own and no living parents, she doesn’t wear anything but the lightest foundation, soft colors, and dresses her children in the same way.

“Kay” appreciates top dollar, exclusive name-brand clothing bought at expensive stores. Nothing but the very best will suffice and she’s been that way since her teens. Maybe it has to do with moving from a city to a small town where fashion was always behind the times and she was determined to not look like a “hick.”

In the Know

Once you discover why you dress the way you dress, you can begin to make some decisions.

  • Do you dress like you did 20 years ago? It’s time to grow up and move on to a more sophisticated look.
  • Does your wardrobe clash with your current job or family role? It’s time for a wardrobe update.
  • Has your experiences made you a more confident, accepting person? Let your clothes reflect the attractive real you.
  • Do you have a low self-esteem and don’t want attention? Your clothes surely show it and you no doubt suffer for it. It’s time to dress for success.
  • How can I use this information to find my style

Instead of letting the past determine the contents of your closet, take that first step into fashion freedom and shut the door on the past. It’s gone, over, done with. You don’t have to live there anymore.

Assess for Success

With this new sense of purpose, it’s time to assess your wardrobe. Follow these 5 steps into a brighter fashion future:

  1. Try on all your clothes. Ask yourself what you do and don’t like about them.
  2. Put the clothes you do like back in your closet.
  3. Take the clothes you no longer like and separate them into 2 groups:
    • what can be altered or accessorized to be worn again
    • what will be thrown out
  1. Make a list of what you plan to throw out and what it will be (ideally) replaced by.
  2. Gradually shop for new items to revamp your wardrobe. Start with basic items which easily mix and match with what you already have.

Wardrobe Warning

Remember! Building a new wardrobe based on the present you takes time. Expect to spend about 6 months of shopping to discover items which express your personality and lifestyle (don’t forget those end-of-season sales!). Be careful not to fall into the rut you’ve been in and automatically purchase garments you’ve always worn just because you always have and they’re comfy. Ask yourself if a garment or accessory fits who you are NOW before making the purchase.

PretaStyler makes the perfect partner in helping you dress better. If you know someone who’s due for a wardrobe revamp, introduce them to PretaStyler as their newest fashion influence.